I just wanted to leave my condolences and a comforting scripture. John 5:28 reads- 'Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out." This speaks of a resurrection of our dead loved ones. I know you don't know me but you and the family will be in my prayers.
It was not God's purpose for mankind to suffer and die the way we do today. When you get a chance visit http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/our-suffering/. This site brought me comfort during my hard time.